19 May 2020, 15:21 — 5 min read
What is your first thought when you read the title? It is very possible that you thought about the ‘me’ in communication. I would have done the same until I had this session with my fellow counsellors when I got this insight about the topic. I then realised that this is probably something worth sharing my views about.
A manager in an IT company was talking to me the other day and said, “I had this team meeting and at the end of the meeting I made some statement and in hindsight I thought it was rude”. He quoted another instance. “I was in this meeting and at the end I told this colleague of mine that it looks like you always want to have the last word”. This was about a year and a half ago and it still bothered him.
I heard many such instances where the clients had said something because of which the other person felt hurt, sad, and angry and the client then wonders what happened.
What is understood by the listener is not always what we wanted to convey. There is a gap between what we intended (our thoughts) and what we communicate (our behaviour).
By now, I assume you would have guessed the “I” in communication that I am referring to. Yes it is the INTENT of communication.
When we start with a communication the intent is still in our head. The whole objective of communication is to ensure the intent that we have in our head is understood by the listener. We do this through our verbal and non-verbal communication. However, what is understood by the listener is not always what we wanted to convey. Apparently, there is a gap between what we intended (our thoughts) and what we communicate (our behaviour).
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When the listener observes the body language and listens to the words used and the way it is said, the listener attaches a meaning to what is observed. This meaning is attributed based on what the listener picked up from the verbal and non-verbal cues and how they mapped it to what they already know (could be part of a judgement process).
When the meaning attached by the listener is different from the meaning attached (intent) by the sender, we have a miscommunication. What follows is a reaction to the meaning as understood by the listener. You said this, no, I didn’t mean it that way and so on goes the conversation.
So, as the sender how can you ensure there is no gap between what you intended to say and what you are actually saying and how the other person understands it. An effective communication is one which reduces the gap in all these cases.
If you are the listener what can you do to ensure the communication is effective?
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Posted byGopalakrishnan Subramanian
As a Corporate Coach, Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Organization Development Consultant, Behavioral Analyst, I help individuals and organizations to understand their potential and...
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